BLOG POST THREE
Leading with confidence...
Is confidence an important trait to help navigate life?
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When I think back to my childhood, I feel I was more oblivious than confident. I was that kid with rose tinted glasses, always saw good in people. I never once considered myself confident but may have appeared that way because you’d often find me doing my own thing.
It got me thinking was this the beginning of self-leadership in action at 8yrs old?!
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So, what is confidence? Most may use the term ‘self-confidence’ which means being self-assured. It can apply across several areas in your life. For example, your character, how you behave in group settings or otherwise. This includes your accomplishments too.
Confident people don’t tend to seek approval from others, they’ve usually thought about the scenarios, quickly deciding on a course of action of how they’ll achieve it, hole in one! If not, you can be sure they’ll give it another go until they do.
What gives a person confidence?
My experience growing up I remember my dad once telling me to ‘Learn the rules and play the game better’ at the time I did but also didn’t understand what he meant. You see, we moved and settled in Mangere, South Auckland in the early 80s from Suva, Fiji and at the time my father, a single dad was equipping his daughter to lead with confidence.
My dad’s quote set me on a mission to figure things out as I go.
One thing I’ve always been able to do is think positively even on the not so good days! When life throws you curve balls that you aren’t quite ready to catch!
My family equipped me with valuable life lessons that started at home and when I think back, I was so fortunate. Not always grateful in my teen’s years but now as an adult I sometimes want to uppercut myself for the things, I would get up to in those formative teenage years!
Dad was always a champion of education, training & development, seeking knowledge and being kind to people. For him that meant being independent and to never pour from an empty cup – a practice and something I struggle with even today.
With this experience, I leave you with 3 tips!
Don’t worry about things outside of your control.
Some things are in your control while most aren’t. When faced with a situation try your best to assess it by asking yourself what you can and can’t control. Focus on what you can control and forget about the rest or figure it later when you’ve processed what you are facing at the time. A calmer mind makes for clearer decisions.Ask for help, it is okay to ask for help.
When you work through bullet point one, reach out and ask for help, you are not alone and opt for not doing things alone. A problem shared is better than doing it yourself. This is easier said than done but I encourage you to lean into this leadership trait.Be decisive.
Making decisions is not easy, you always have that thing at back of your mind, where overthinking creeps in, a level of insecurity sets in. Here I would reflect on all the challenges in life you’ve had to date, when you once thought you couldn’t get through, but you did and here you are still standing strong, you got this!
To close, if what I’ve shared resonates, then I’d encourage you to strive to be self-lead, your own cheerleader, take information in but also know you are in control, and it is okay to decide for yourself. You lead you!
Remember, you are the engine room and vehicle for greatness, keep it simple, keep it moving.
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